It’s really hard to put into words how I feel about Mother’s Day this year. By no means is it my favorite holiday – it’s usually just some added pressure to both hang out with the people who made me a mom, but also to take the opportunity to get a Sunday afternoon away from the same people. Ads about what gifts I might want, how much I should be loving all the moms in my life, etc. At least for me, those messages have been (thankfully) absent for the most part this year, with companies realizing that even knowing it’s currently the month of May is a stretch for a lot of people.
While the photos below are a small handful of the moms I’ve gotten to know over the last few years, I’d rather take the opportunity to thank all the women in my life right now – the ones who are letting me lean on them and vent when things are shitty. The ones sending me cookbook, recipe, and virtual cooking class recommendations to try and shake up the dinner routine. The ones trying to help me navigate teaching my kids at home. The ones who are dealing with massive amounts of stress and chaos in their own lives, who still take the time to stop and ask how I’m doing.
I knew I had a community, but I didn’t realize how important it was, and how much I was taking it for granted. While I’ve stayed in touch with many of them, a phone call is not a replacement for an evening on a back patio. We don’t have a swingset because someone else does. We don’t have a pool because we go somewhere else. Hell, we don’t have a dog because our friends do. What now?
I’ve written this post over the last three days, maybe four. I’ve swung wildly between feelings. I planted two trees. I picked up the kids’ things from school in garbage bags. Summer camp at LCCC was cancelled. My pasque flower finally bloomed.
I’m not sure to know how to feel anymore. But I do know that I’m incredibly grateful for the women in my life – the tough, the sad, the positive, the childfree, the sensitive, the creative, the just-getting-by. I’m thankful that I’ve been able to photograph my friends with their families, and thankful that some of the people I’ve gotten to photograph have become my friends.
Happy Mother’s Day to those who are feeling it. And Happy “You Made It Through One More Day” to those who aren’t.